STUDENTS'
IDEAS FOR COMMUNICATION
We don't tell parents everything, in part because we
don't always trust each other. What's important is to
build trust. Have open dialogue. Rules should be made
up in individual families and be non-judgmental.
A good starting point would be to have your child write
out his ideal rules and then the parent should LISTEN.
There has to be a sense of equality in the discussion.
Find out why the kids are doing what they're doing.
Kids should let their parents know where they're going,
they should name one person they're going with and how
they're getting there and back. It could be dangerous
on the Muni, particularly later at night. Establish
cab fares ahead of time.
A curfew should depend on where we're going. There are
times where the places or events require more time for
us to get home.
Call your parents when you're leaving the gathering,
especially freshmen and sophomores with transportation
problems.
Parents could discuss with their teens as to what's
going to be going on at the party and talk about certain
party situations. Take the time to clarify your expectations
for drinking and smoking. Give your child ideas as to
how to stay in control of situations, for example, not
drinking...my parents say I can use them as the "bad
guy" or simply say "I'm driving."
Talk to your teenager about your values on sex, drugs,
and social issues. Help them clarify their own values.
Sit down and talk. Treat them respectfully.
Whe you want to discuss something with your child, don't
do it in a "trapped area." Find a time that's
good for both of you.
When you ask a question, be prepared to hear and accept
the answer.
When I come home...my parents want me to wake them up...or
your could have a signal to let them know you're home.
We worry about our parents, too. They should call if
they are going to be late.
Parents should let us know that if we feel uncomfortable
for any reason we can call them.
Parents should know that they're not the only ones who
think it's scary to be out on the
streets at night. We're not DUMB! Some of us think it's
scary out there, too. Be honest with your kid. That
will lead to trust.
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