STUDENTS'
IDEAS FOR COMMUNICATION
We don't tell parents everything, in part because
we don't always trust each other. What's important
is to build trust. Have open dialogue. Rules should
be made up in individual families and be non-judgmental.
A good starting point would be to have your child
write out his ideal rules and then the parent should
LISTEN. There has to be a sense of equality in the
discussion.
Find out why the kids are doing what they're doing.
Kids should let their parents know where they're going,
they should name one person they're going with and
how they're getting there and back. It could be dangerous
on the Muni, particularly later at night. Establish
cab fares ahead of time.
A curfew should depend on where we're going. There
are times where the places or events require more
time for us to get home.
Call your parents when you're leaving the gathering,
especially freshmen and sophomores with transportation
problems.
Parents could discuss with their teens as to what's
going to be going on at the party and talk about certain
party situations. Take the time to clarify your expectations
for drinking and smoking. Give your child ideas as
to how to stay in control of situations, for example,
not drinking...my parents say I can use them as the
"bad guy" or simply say "I'm driving."
Talk to your teenager about your values on sex, drugs,
and social issues. Help them clarify their own values.
Sit down and talk. Treat them respectfully.
Whe you want to discuss something with your child,
don't do it in a "trapped area." Find a
time that's good for both of you.
When you ask a question, be prepared to hear and accept
the answer.
When I come home...my parents want me to wake them
up...or your could have a signal to let them know
you're home.
We worry about our parents, too. They should call
if they are going to be late.
Parents should let us know that if we feel uncomfortable
for any reason we can call them.
Parents should know that they're not the only ones
who think it's scary to be out on the
streets at night. We're not DUMB! Some of us think
it's scary out there, too. Be honest with your kid.
That will lead to trust.
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